Everyone has days where they are just not feeling motivated, you'd rather curl up in bed with Netflix or a book and a nice hot cuppa. We all have our reasons to why we just have a 'cba' day. For me it's been more days than usual. If you're in the same situation as I was, here is how I got more motivation and out of that slump.
I suffer with depression and anxiety. My depression over the last few months have gotten worse and I have been having days where I'd rather be in bed and shut myself away from the world. I've been having days where I just want to sit down with a tea and not talk to anyone, I would put on a fake smile for other people around me pretending I'm fine. Slowly I did things to motivate me so I could do more rather than waste my day sitting around.
Number one...socialize. When you feel like you can't be bothered, talking can be an effort. I found talking to my friends and meeting up with them really does help. As hard as it is to push yourself when you really can not be bothered. You'll be having a good old laugh and it'll lift your mood. My two closest friends who lives close to me are Ben and Emma. I absolutely love meeting up with Ben, going for walks and to weatherspoons for cake. It's a time where I can escape from reality and we just have the best laughs and chats. My friend Emma comes over for a cuppa and a chit chat and is always there for me 100%. Lifts me up when I'm down and is always there to listen. We are there for each other and it's a nice feeling to know I have someone to turn too. We also have a really good laugh and I love our chats. I then have two other friends, who's also called Emma and the other, Queenie. I love to meet up for drinks and we have the best time ever. I laugh so much when I am with them both, so much I'm crying with laughter. You should keep your friends close because talking to people is key. Especially if you are feeling low. They really will lift your mood. If they don't, they are the wrong people to be around.
Set yourself a goal. Even if it is a small one and break it down. You'll feel great once you've accomplished something. Mine was to be happy. I spent all my time making sure everyone else was happy, but as my friend Emma said, sometimes you just have to be selfish and do what you want to make YOU happy. Set yourself a goal so that you have something to focus on.
Music! Music is a huge motivation as I feel it gets you pumped for the day. I tend to put it on when cleaning and tidying, or if I feel down I like to just put my headphones on and shut the world out for an hour. Maybe have a little dance around the house too, turn it up and annoy your neighbours...I didn't just tell you to do that though!
YouTube....watching funny videos or your favourite YouTubers can get you motivated. Watch videos that make you laugh just to get you into that good mood. When I struggle with motivation I like to watch Zoe and Mark funny moments because it really gets me in a good mood watching people who are just as crazy as me. If you're not sure who Zoe and Mark are, Zoe is well known as Zoella and Mark is Mark Ferris.
Time to yourself. You're probably thinking how does this help? I find a good pamper and a little bit of self care really does help. My favourite is to put my oil diffuser on with lavender oil and sweet orange for a calming feel. I then like to put my bed side light on so it's not too bright in my room. Hot shower, clean pj's and clean bedding with a white hot choc really works for me. Puts me in the best possible mood for bed, Netflix goes on and I chill...that seriously wasn't supposed to sound like Netflix and chill but whatever... Sometimes putting yourself first and relaxing can help. Release the stress and whatever is running through in your brain and just switch off for half hour, focus on yourself.
Smiling is important. If you smile more it can actually change your mood. I've tried it and it works. Try and have a good laugh, whether it's with family, friends....your annoying siblings. It can lift your mood and make you happy.
At the end of the day everyone is different and we all deal with things in our way. You've just got to remember you are beautiful, strong and you'll achieve your dreams. The right time will come. Unfortunately it doesn't happen over night and you have to work hard for what you want. I have thoughts all the time where I just want to give up, give up with life, what I'm doing and I feel like I can't do this anymore, feeling like I'm a waste of space and that no one wants me. Always feeling like crap and tired, but it's mostly what you tell yourself in your head. I figured you need to tell yourself that you are strong and everything WILL get better. Just in it's own time, that you are worth everyone's time and that you really are wanted. Just don't let what you think stop you, you need to try and think positive, because it really does change the way you think and your attitude, giving you a little more motivation.
Stay amazing and true to yourself!
