Guide to confidence


Confidence is something that most of us struggle with, even I do some days, but you can't let it own your life, you've gotta own IT. Easier said than done, right?
Most of the time it's the little voices in our heads that makes us feel less confident and feel the way that we do. Today, we are going to stop listening to those voices and do what we want to do for once.



Stop Comparing

Comparing yourself to other people is not okay. The thing is, we all have something about ourselves that we dislike, you could look at someone and wish you had their hair or their eyes but the reality is someone most likely is looking at you wishing the same. Everyone is beautiful in their own way, if we all looked the same we'd be boring. It's best to be unique as this defines who you really are. 


Learn To Love Yourself

That's when it brings me onto this. Learning to love yourself is so important because if you don't, how can you ever be happy or confident in who you are. Accepting yourself for who you are is key. Look at yourself in the mirror every morning and repeatedly say 'I am beautiful' until one day you don't need too because you'll know you are beautiful inside and out for who you are.
Loving yourself doesn't happen overnight, trust me I know. I would spend days hating myself because I was too busy comparing myself and wishing I was someone else, but I started to accept myself for who I am and now I am a lot happier. Focus on you, be selfish and take some 'me' time. Take some time out for you, whether that's reading a book, watching a TV show you've always wanted to watch. Loving yourself is also about taking care of yourself. Making sure you're eating and sleeping well and you start putting yourself first.


Compliments

This will not only make another woman, or guy feel good but it'll make you feel good too, just knowing that you have made someone else's day will most likely make yours too. Doesn't have to be anything big, could be how someone's done their hair for that day or telling someone that they have done a good job at something.
When you receive a compliment learn to say thank you, I know it's something us gals struggle with a lot, even I do sometimes but just say thank you, or smile.


Unfollow

If you are following people on social media who when they post makes you feel insecure or unconfident, girl you need to unfollow them. You don't need that negativity in your life and unfollowing will make you feel so much better, only follow people who are an inspiration and makes you feel more confident.


Make A Goal

Everyday make yourself a goal that you're just going to be better than the person you were yesterday.
Instead of trying to compare yourself and to be better than other people, just try and be better than yourself. It could be the smallest goal such as make your bed in the morning, or it could be a big goal like change your job. Either way, make a small list, a big list can be too overwhelming, maybe list 5 goals to reach in a month.


Learn To Say No

There is one of you, you can't do everything. All you can do is just do your best, try your best and be your best. When you have so much going on, it really is okay to say NO. You don't have to say yes to everything that's being chucked in your direction. Once you've said no the first time, it'll get easier the second time and the third. You do what is best for you. It's okay to be selfish sometimes.
I hope this has helped you in anyway, remember that you are beautiful.